When You’re Bit by the Insecurity Bug

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Hey sweet friend!

If you’ve been connected with me for a while you know that I wrote a book last year. During this process of excruciating vulnerability I’ve had the emotional ride of my life!

High … low … high … low … high … looooooow …

This year as I’m going through the next phase of publishing I’m experiencing yet again many mixed emotions.

Putting yourself “out there” is such a scary place to be. It’s so easy to get caught up in what other people think about you. Who will “approve” of you and who will “reject” you? Those kinds of thoughts spinning in your mind too long could make a person go crazy.

Ugh!!!

And if you don’t watch out you might be taken by surprise when one day you realize you’re eaten up with insecurities that keep you trapped in fear and paralyzed in the “not good enoughs”.

Just the other day I was having a come to Jesus meeting with myself and said, “Linda, you’ve been bit by the insecurity bug once again! What are you going to do about it? Eat a candy bar or let yourself feel it and have a cry on your hubby’s shoulder?”

Well, I actually did both. {Just being honest here.}

The candy bar didn’t really do a thing for me except give me a sugar rush, headache and kept me up half the night. But crying on my husband’s shoulder actually worked for me.

I wept like a baby. Snot everywhere!

And as my husband dried my tears with his sweet words of encouragement I found strength to move forward and get over myself.

Now, that was just for the moment. That darn insecurity bug is buzzing around me all the time. It’s everywhere. Online, in relationships, in church, in ministry, in parenting, in my physical health, in finances … you name it, that stinker might pop up anywhere.

Instead of running away from my fears, I’ve decided to lean into them. I’ve been bit one too many times by insecurity and I refuse to let it take me down.

I will keep fighting. I will keep getting back up.

Why?

Because when I am weak HE IS STRONG! His grace is sufficient for me. His power is made perfect in my weakness. (2 Cor 12:9-10) He has armed me with strength for battle. He has made my opponents (the enemy) bow at my feet. (Psalm 18:39)

I simply choose to keep on fighting. Today I choose to remain fearless. Will you join me?

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12 thoughts on “When You’re Bit by the Insecurity Bug”

  1. I can’t tell you how many times I have felt like this. Numerous I am sure. I am working on learning that it’s ok to be me.. I’m quirky, funny, silly and actually shy at times. I’m ok. Learning to grow makes you feel so raw and vulnerable. But I’m learning God has my back! That feels amazing. Learning to trust and know I will make it through my insecurities and learn more about loving myself. Thanks Linda. This made my day.
    Deanna

  2. Once again, Linda, you are ministering to me in a special way. I look forward to your February blog posts and “squashing” my insecurity bugs. Love you!

  4. I shared this post on my Facebook page. …. My husband was diagnosed with esophageal cancer last August. He endured three months of chemo and is now facing surgery next Friday to remove his esophagus. Besides that, he suffers from PTSD from serving in Afghanistan. The cancer has exacerbated his PTSD. However, the cancer has brought many good things into our life. My faith is strong. Somehow I get through each day.

    I have a home-based business. I am trying to maintain it while my husband goes through all of his treatment and recovery. My business is my only “normal” at this time. But I still somehow hold myself back. Trying to find a balance during this time.

    • Susan you ARE AN AMAZING WOMEN!! God I pray for Susan as she continues to remain faithful trusting You every step of the way. I pray for supernatural strength as she cares and loves for her husband. I ask for her husband to know You Lord intimately as You continue to bring overall healing to him. I left up the doctors and medical staff as they care for him. Thank you Susan for sharing here. Sending you lots of prayers and love virtually. ((hugs))

      • Susan, 5 years ago a loved one went through an esophageoctomy and he is still with us. He still suffers from the reconstruction and the ability to eat but he chose life with Jesus and every day is a gift. Praying for you and your husband in these difficult days that God bless you both and family with His Divine Healing, Strength and Love!

  5. Linda, I arrive home after a long day, weary, worn, weak and tonight with a heavy heart and having a conversation with Jesus about what a mess I am…questioning my decisions, choices, words spoken…I make a cup of hot cocoa and after an attempt at prayer, I open my email and open yours…once again, I hear God speaking to me in your words. And know that He has been with me through it all. my heart is lifted by His Word. I will finish my cocoa and this comment and head up to my little heaven to jammie up and quietly rest with Jesus! He is Enough! Thank you Linda! God bless!

    • What a beautiful comment Mary. You just made my day. (And it is very rainy today.) I really needed to hear these sweet words of encouragement. Thank you for being here and sharing your heart with me. I love you!!! ((hugs))

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