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Are “they” Really That Important?

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What will “they” think?

Will “they” like me?

Will “they” approve of me?

Will “they” reject me?

Will “they” love me?

Will “they” hate me?

Will “they” agree with me?

Will “they” disagree with me?

“They” can keep me up at night, tossing and turning, trying to figure out what “they” think.

Every time that darn insecurity bug bites me it sends me into the crazy land of “they”.

Obsessing over what “they” think about me.

Have you ever struggled with such ridiculous thinking?

A few weeks ago when I was talking with my therapist (and yes I have a therapist and a life coach … there’s a big difference between the two) I came up with a great idea on how to protect myself from being consumed with “they”, aka other people’s opinions about me.

Sitting on her big comfy couch my therapist asked me to describe who I was. Not who everyone else says I am, but who I truly am as a 40-year old woman.

As tears trickled down my cheeks I could feel myself becoming lighter, more vibrate, and full of life as I expressed the beautiful unique person that God created.

I am compassionate, loving, strong, courageous, beautiful, giving …

As I expressed the truth from my heart I envisioned all the opinions of others bouncing off of me. 

All opinions, all words … good, bad, indifferent, kind, mean, shocking, thoughtful …. None of the words were able to land on me. They just bounced off of me.

Instead of allowing those words to penetrate my soul and take root, I was filled with who God says I am, the absolute pure truth.

I decided that day that those are the only words that are allowed to consume me. I don’t need words to puff my ego up and tell me how good I am and I certainly don’t need words to tear me down.

Now I’m not saying we should not receive words of love and compassion from others. By all means we are made for relationship and expressing thoughtful words to one another. This is part of the beautiful gift of life we live.

What I am saying is that we must guard our hearts before allowing anything to come in. Make sure the words that are spoken align with who God says we are before opening ourselves up to every thought, word, or opinion that comes our way.

Proverbs 4:32 says it beautifully, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”.

Have you struggled with opinions from others before? I would love to hear from you in the comments below. Everyone who comments will be entered to WIN a special devotional book from Lysa TerKeurst, What Happens When Women Say Yes to God. Winner announced Feb. 28.

Journal with God: Write in your journal all the words that have been hurting your heart. Maybe even the people who have said those words to you. Then ask God to reveal His truth to you. Write down who God says’ you are, the beautiful truth.

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How To Love Yourself

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Let’s get real here, every single person on this planet struggles with truly loving him or herself. I mean why in the world do we constantly numb ourselves with social media, food, work, alcohol, shopping, TV, Starbucks, fill in the blank________!

So how do we truly love ourselves?

Well, the first thing is to forget about following a “How To” step-by-step guide on loving yourself. If “How To” really worked then I would not be writing this blog post right now. Think about the millions of how to guides out there already.

Each one of us is a unique and special individual so what works for me might not work for you. However, there is one thing I’ve learned through many years of counseling and coaching that works every time.

Community!

What? How can community teach me how to love myself?

When we are around like-minded people we discover a sense of belonging that opens ourselves up to the possibility of acceptance {self-acceptance}, worth {self-worth}, and love {self-love}.

So what I would like to do is to invite you into a discussion on my blog today around numbing. What things are you using to avoid what you’re feeling?

I’ll go first! I eat carbs and sugars when I’m emotional! I’ll do a quick Starbucks run to give me a warm hug of comfort when I’m feeling sad. I’ll hop over to Social Media for a dose of comparison that will either puff up my ego or deflate it when I’m feeling insecure.

Ughhh! I did it! I shared with you some things that I’m not too proud of, but it’s out there. Now, will you join me in this discussion? What do you use to numb or avoid what your feeling?

Before we start this dialog, let’s pray the truth over our conversation.

Gracious Heavenly Father,

We stand together on Your divine word and claim it over our lives today. “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1” We pray for strongholds to be broken as we come together in a community and discover how to truly love ourselves as You have always desired before time began. We pray for no judgment from one another, but simply love. In Jesus Name we pray, Amen

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You verses God?

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Are you consumed with You or God?

I’m really starting to develop some insecurity around writing my blog each week because I’m convicted to be gut wrenching honest with you.

Ugh…..Here we go….

I have to admit to you my sweet sisters; I struggle with being consumed with me!

You see I know God did not miraculously heal me from cancer and a month long coma for me to just sit around and be obsessed with me.  Just like he hasn’t kept you alive for you to be focused and consumed with you.

But when it comes to taking a risk, like putting yourself out there for the world to see or trying something new we often end up paralyzed with fear because we consume ourselves with that one letter word…..I.

How can I do that?  What if I look stupid?  What if I am not good enough?

Which ultimately leads us to the vicious cycle of poor pitiful me, and then turns into a ridiculous self-loathing saga.

How in the world can we get ourselves off of our minds?  I had a revelation to that question this week while reading this verse.

For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.  Ephesians 2:10

When we truly accept and love who God made us to be, there’s a divine freedom that floods the soul.  And through this beautiful freedom we slowly begin to allow ourselves to do the work he prepared for us long ago.

So guess what?  Instead of being trapped, agonizing over our thoughts and fears we end up moving into being completely consumed with God!

Have you been consumed with you or God lately?  How can you begin to switch your focus?  If you received this post via email, go to the bottom of the page and click on the link that has comment in it.  I would love to hear from you!

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