Are “they” Really That Important?

Posted on February 26, 2015 by lkuhar

What will “they” think?

Will “they” like me?

Will “they” approve of me?

Will “they” reject me?

Will “they” love me?

Will “they” hate me?

Will “they” agree with me?

Will “they” disagree with me?

“They” can keep me up at night, tossing and turning, trying to figure out what “they” think.

Every time that darn insecurity bug bites me it sends me into the crazy land of “they”.

Obsessing over what “they” think about me.

Have you ever struggled with such ridiculous thinking?

A few weeks ago when I was talking with my therapist (and yes I have a therapist and a life coach … there’s a big difference between the two) I came up with a great idea on how to protect myself from being consumed with “they”, aka other people’s opinions about me.

Sitting on her big comfy couch my therapist asked me to describe who I was. Not who everyone else says I am, but who I truly am as a 40-year old woman.

As tears trickled down my cheeks I could feel myself becoming lighter, more vibrate, and full of life as I expressed the beautiful unique person that God created.

I am compassionate, loving, strong, courageous, beautiful, giving …

As I expressed the truth from my heart I envisioned all the opinions of others bouncing off of me.

All opinions, all words … good, bad, indifferent, kind, mean, shocking, thoughtful …. None of the words were able to land on me. They just bounced off of me.

Instead of allowing those words to penetrate my soul and take root, I was filled with who God says I am, the absolute pure truth.

I decided that day that those are the only words that are allowed to consume me. I don’t need words to puff my ego up and tell me how good I am and I certainly don’t need words to tear me down.

Now I’m not saying we should not receive words of love and compassion from others. By all means we are made for relationship and expressing thoughtful words to one another. This is part of the beautiful gift of life we live.

What I am saying is that we must guard our hearts before allowing anything to come in. Make sure the words that are spoken align with who God says we are before opening ourselves up to every thought, word, or opinion that comes our way.

Proverbs 4:32 says it beautifully, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”.

Have you struggled with opinions from others before? I would love to hear from you in the comments below. Everyone who comments will be entered to WIN a special devotional book from Lysa TerKeurst, What Happens When Women Say Yes to God. Winner announced Feb. 28.

Journal with God: Write in your journal all the words that have been hurting your heart. Maybe even the people who have said those words to you. Then ask God to reveal His truth to you. Write down who God says’ you are, the beautiful truth.

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How Your Core Values Keep You Accountable {and a giveaway!}

Posted on February 19, 2015 by lkuhar

It’s so exciting to see how great everyone is doing on accountability this month. I love hearing from you. Thank you for all your emails. Your motivation keeps me motivated!

On a recent blog post I wrote, “Accountability oozes from our core values”. For example one of my core values is honesty. Because honesty is a core value of mine, when I tell someone I will do something, that means I will do it. That is why accountability works when it’s connected to my core values.

There are hundreds of core values. I would love to hear what your core values are in the comments below. Everyone who comments will be entered to WIN a special devotional book from Lysa TerKeurst, What Happens When Women Say Yes to God. Winner announced Feb. 28.

Here’s a list of core values to select from (but not limited to): Love, Obedience, Patience, Quality, Security, Inspiring Others, Family, Accomplishment, Trust, Recognition, Peace, Mentoring, Wellness, Loyalty, Service, Honesty, Humor, Integrity, Faith, Fun, Respect, Persistence, Community, Creativity, Encouragement, Order, Nurturing, Excellence, Courage, Honor, Joy, Authenticity, Elegance.

Journal with God: Write in your journal all of your core values. Reflect on the many ways God has used these values throughout your life as a gift to you and to serve others.

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How a Simple Routine Brings Great Reward

Posted on January 20, 2015 by lkuhar

How can we continue to move forward and not get stuck when working towards our goals?

Something I recently learned over the past few weeks from my pastor during this amazing sermon series called the Power of Same is how a shift in my focus can bring a great reward.

What if we stopped focusing on the end result and simply focused on the routine, making the routine our reward? Can you imagine how accomplished we will feel? How much momentum we will create? So what routine can you commit to that will help you achieve your goals? I would love to hear from you!

Everyone who comments on my blog this month will be entered to WIN a copy Karen Ehman’s latest book Keep It Shut. Click here for the next FREE Proverbs 31 Ministry Online Bible Study of Keep It Shut.

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Take the K-LOVE 30 Day Challenge here. Listen to nothing but Christian music for 30 Days! A simple way to reset your mind and create a better you today!

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Do You Sweat When You Pray?

Posted on December 9, 2014 by lkuhar

Do you pray to the point of tears and sweat?

After watching a women pray to the point of tears and sweat I am inspired to step up my prayer life. I am encouraging and challenging you {stretching you} to be intentional when seeking God. Seek him with your whole and heart soul when you pray.

Let me know how I can pray for you in the comments below. Also have you ever had a special encounter while praying?

Everyone who comments today will be entered to WIN a signed copy of Limitless Life by Pastor Derwin Gray of Transformation Church.

CONGRATULATIONS to LuAnne who is the Winner of A Confident Heart by Renee Swope. Email linda@lindakuhar.com to receive your prize.

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Linda Kuhar is a Certified Christian Life Coach, Board Certified Life Coach, Certified Human Behavior Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Mentor. Click here to learn more about coaching with Linda & frequently asked questions about the coaching experience.

SPECIAL NOTE: I will be increasing Coaching fees in January due to client volume and limited availability. However, sessions purchased during 2014 can be rolled over into 2015.

The Presence of Jesus

Posted on November 13, 2014 by lkuhar

Do you go into “task mode” during your quiet time?

Do you consider reading scripture, devotionals or Christian books your personal connection with Jesus?

It’s important for us to also sit quietly with Jesus and soak in the presence of the Holy Spirit.

As a Christian Life Coach I continually redirect my clients to Jesus and their relationship with him. I believe our connection and intimacy with Jesus is the number one relationship in our lives.

Leave a comment below and let us know how you connect with Jesus on a personal level. You will automatically be entered to WIN a copy of the Jesus Calling Devotional by Sarah Young. {It’s a must have!}

Winner will be announced next Tuesday!

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Giveaway Today

Posted on May 6, 2014 by lkuhar

Hello Sweet Friends,

Today I’m over at one of my very favorite blogs, God-sized Dreams and I’m giving away 2 Coaching Sessions. Click here to find out how you can win!

Love & (((hugs)))!

I currently have a waiting list, however I will have appointments opening up in mid May. I want to encourage you that there is hope and a new way of life through Christian Life Coaching.

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How To Be A Good Listener

Posted on January 16, 2014 by lkuhar

Last night as my teenage daughter was sharing her struggles with me, I found myself wanting to talk and give advice so badly. I knew I could help her “fix” things because I am her mom, right? I mean I’ve got 26 years on her. I do think I know a thing or two about being a teenage girl.

As I sat quietly and semi-patiently listening, I thought I was going to bust. I could barely stand it. I even started feeling a little anxious with sweaty palms and shallow breaths. I wiggled in my seat and adjusted my posture several times as I thought to myself, keep your mouth shut and listen to her Linda.

Why in the world is it so hard for us to just sit and listen?

Why do we feel the need to fix, rescue, advise or control when others just simply need to be heard?

I believe when we are faced with experiencing someone else’s pain, it brings up our “stuff”, our deep personal pains.

It takes courage to slow down long enough to become aware of how we are feeling and be present with another.

There’s an acronym I learned in coaching school that has been an invaluable tool for me as a coach, parent, wife and friend.

WAIT. Why Am I Talking?

When I find myself desperately wanting to talk (because oh how I love to talk!), I’ll say, “WAIT, Why am I talking?” and that usually quiets me long along to gain self-awareness.

I am then able to ask myself questions like, what are you feeling, why are you uncomfortable or what are you afraid of?

It reminds me of James 1:19, one of those graciously humbling scriptures if you know what I mean? Be quick to listen and slow to speak.

So how can you slow down and practice courage while listening to others today? I would love to hear from you! Leave me a comment below.

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{Love & Belonging}

Posted on January 14, 2014 by lkuhar

I hung this sign over my dog’s beds because I thought it was cute. I really do love them, but unintentionally deep down inside I wanted them to know they have a place of belonging.

I’ve caught myself lately reading the sign {You are Loved} throughout the day, and my heart smiles every time.

I believe we feel the most loved when we know that we belong.

Knowing that I truly belong to Jesus and accepted just the way I am with all my imperfections reminds me daily that I am loved.

How can you remind yourself daily that you are loved? Courage is intentional. Leave me a comment below.

I’m linking up my blog today over at holleygerth.com! Check out Coffee for Your Heart!

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$100 Visa Gift Card Giveaway

Posted on January 7, 2014 by lkuhar

How do you find courage within? My favorite way to dig deep and find courage is to talk about my obstacles and fears with someone.

I want to challenge you to share with a friend or leave me a comment about your obstacles and fears. I find when I share my fears I am much more likely to overcome them courageously.

REMEMBER $100 Visa Gift Card Giveaway this month. Every time you Like, Comment or Share on Facebook, Twitter,Pinterest or Instagram {be sure to use #mycouragecoach} you will be entered to WIN a $100 Visa Gift Card that will be drawn on January 31, 2014! This is so much fun!!!

Who can you invite to be a part of #mycouragecoach this month? Spread courage…

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Linda Kuhar, Christian Life Coach

Tag Archives: giveaway

Are “they” Really That Important?

How Your Core Values Keep You Accountable {and a giveaway!}

How a Simple Routine Brings Great Reward

Do You Sweat When You Pray?

The Presence of Jesus

Giveaway Today

How To Be A Good Listener

{Love & Belonging}

$100 Visa Gift Card Giveaway